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From ‘I’m not’ to ‘I am’

19 Jan

How often do we say ‘I am not’? I’m no good at maths. I’m unfit. I can’t save money. I know I say ‘I’m not’ quite a bit.

On the other hand, how many times a day do we say, ‘I am’? I’m healthy. I’m my fittest self. I attract money.

Less often?

This was the theme of Dr. Wayne Dyer’s recent Sydney seminar – ‘Wishes Fulfilled’ – at which he launched his new book of the same name. By telling our subconscious mind that we are fit, we are loved, we are writing a best-selling book (for example), we change our thoughts. Those thoughts become our reality. That reality becomes truth.

I’ll be honest. I went along to Dr. Dyer’s seminar as a skeptic. Not having seen him on stage or read his work, I assumed he’d be just another motivation speaker rattling off the standard self-help stuff. ‘Alright buddy, sell it to me,’ I directed him in my mind. My cynical mind!

Bit by bit, hour by hour, I let Dr Dyer’s message wash over me. It chipped away at my cynicisms. It melted my misconceptions about my mind and my self. I realised that every time I put myself down, or I tell myself ‘I can’t’, or I believe that I am not, those thoughts become my reality. When I moan about a hard day at work, the next day is always a struggle. When I lie in bed and worry about the future or mull over something hurtful that was said to me that day, my dreams are disturbing and I awaken tired and sluggish.

I won’t go into too much detail about Dr Dyer’s seminar. You can read my article about it on the Natural Therapy Pages here.

But I will say that I did a little experiment last night. Just to see if the doc was right. In those precious moments before drifting off to sleep, I told my self ‘I am loved’, ‘I am happy’, ‘I am my fittest, healthiest self’ and ‘I am making a difference’. I might not have woken up with a halo hovering over my head. But I did start my day more peaceful and, dare I say it, a little ‘enlightened’. And, most surprising of all, I woke up ten minutes before my alarm and bounded out of bed, ready for boot camp. After having just five hours sleep. Woop woop!

There’s still a lot of work to do. Some challenges to face. Many entrenched thoughts to reverse. But I feel like I’m taking a step in the right direction.

Monday musing: If you could be, do or have anything

19 Dec

A few years ago, mum sent me The New Psychology of Achievement – a set of six CDs by motivational guru Brian Tracy. Being the self development-obsessed lass that I am, I eagerly tore off the wrapper, loaded the CDs into my iPod and listened to them day and night. I lapped up the lessons, nodded along to Brian’s wise words and believed my life was about to change.

One of the questions repeated on the CDs was “What one great thing would you dare to dream, if you knew you could not faiI? If you could be, do or have anything in life, what would it be? If you had all the money, all the resources, all the contacts and all the skills, how would you live your life?”

The idea was that once you had answered this question, you would never have to work again. Well, you would, as unfortunately optimism doesn’t buy shoes. But the idea what that it wouldn’t feel like work. You’d be living your dream.

I mulled over the question for weeks and eventually came up with a list that included:

  • Helping others to enrich their lives.
  • Working for myself from home.
  • Writing about anything and everything.
  • Being a published author, with a suite of novels.
  • Eat Tim Tams without gaining weight (I imagined one of the ‘what ifs’ included ‘If calories didn’t exist’).

Then one morning, I sat upright in bed and decided I would run my own business helping people to get organised. The idea just popped into my head. I decided to go with it. A few weeks later, I quit my stifling job and launched my professional organising business. Just as the recession hit. Perhaps not the smartest move! But even as people were tightening their belts, I still managed to build a successful little business. It was a short stint. I ended up returning to employment after 10 months (though, thankfully, in a job I loved). While answering Brian Tracy’s question didn’t get me set up for life, it did help me escape a miserable job and find another focus, even if it was just for a few months.

Asking the question again

As a new year approaches, I’m once again pondering the question ‘If I could be, do or have anything, how would I live my life?’ The aim of the question is to get us to re-frame our lives and ponder our path. It’s about a paradigm shift. Brian claims that if you can change your thinking, you can change your life. 

He says that if you can shake off the ‘I’m not good enough’ feelings and re-frame how you see yourself, you can be your perfect self. If you imagine yourself as ‘the perfect person, the very best person you could possibly be, with the very best qualities you could possibly have, living the life, doing the things, having the things that are most important to you, this is your self ideal.’ Once you start visualising and living as your ideal self, you can set out to achieve the ‘be, do or have anything’ dream and voila – you’ll be living your perfect life!

This year, I haven’t allowed myself much time to stop and think this question through. I’ve been so focused on ticking off my to-do list, leaving little time to ponder, plan and dream big.

One of my biggest fears is looking back in ten years’ time and asking, ‘What the heck did I do all those years?’ So this Christmas, when I escape to mum’s retreat for some much needed R&R, I’m going to pull out the pens and paper (I find the computer crushes my creativity) and go to town on that paradigm shift. Sure, I might come back with a big wad of idealistic crap, but at least I’ll have granted myself the time and space to create that crap. And surely taking the time to plan how you want to spend your time, is the first and greatest challenge.

If you could be, do or have anything, what would it be? Or do you already have it all? Share by commenting below. 🙂

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